WASHINGTON — Not everyone wants to be a mom. Movie star Cameron Diaz doesn’t, and she said so in her August Esquire Magazine interview.
Melanie Notkin knows plenty of women like Diaz. She is the founder of Savvy Auntie, a multimedia company designed for women who love kids but have none of their own.
“The truth is, more women are not having children by choice, like Cameron, or by circumstance,” Notkin says.
“Some women are born knowing that they don’t want to be a mother, and some come across that realization later in life.”
Kensington, Maryland resident Stephanie Lukin always knew she didn’t want to me a mom.
“There were more than enough people on earth already, and it wasn’t a really responsible thing to have more than you should or any at all if you didn’t really really want to have them,” she says about her decision to not have kids.
The number of women who don’t have children is growing. In 2012, 47 percent of women between 15 and 44 did not have kids, according to a U.S. Census Bureau study. In 1976 that number was 35 percent.
There are four strong reasons as to why women are not having babies, according to Cerentha Harris, editor-in-chief for parenting website mom.me.
Fertility issues play a role when women delay marriage and try to have children later in life.
“There is also a drop in societal pressure to become parents, better career opportunities for women and greater access and improvement to birth control options.” she says.
“I think all those things have really impacted the decisions that women make.”
Swati Bose, who along with her husband owns Flight Wine Bar in D.C.’s Chinatown neighborhood, says they had the child conversation early in their relationship. She considered adoption and he wanted no children.
“I did law school, he did business school and then we began working and the first five years of work was really hectic,” she says.
After that, the conversation ended.
Notkin of Savvy Auntie, who wrote “Otherhood,” a book on childless women, says today it’s all about choice.
“Being in the right relationship is a choice. Waiting for love is a choice. Choosing to have a child on one’s own is a choice and, of course, choosing to be child-free is a choice.”
More and more women are making those choices.
Cerentha Harris refers back to the Diaz interview. “[Diaz] said,