Katie Howard, wtop.com
WASHINGTON – The idiom, “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” might apply to some parents and kids, but not all. In fact, in most families, the apple does fall far from the tree.
That’s because children and adults are born with different dispositions, according to licensed therapist and parent coach Kerrie LaRosa.
And this obvious difference in personality greatly impacts the relationship between a parent and a child.
“Understanding our own temperament is as important as understanding our child’s,” LaRosa says.
For example, if the parent has more of a slow-to-warm personality, it may be harder for that parent to keep up with a more active or outgoing child. If a parent is more on the active-end of the spectrum, it might be frustrating at times for him or her to slow down to the pace of a more mellow child.
LaRosa says there are generally three types of temperaments — although some children may not fall neatly into one category. These three categories include:
If you want that more harmonious household, LaRosa suggests figuring out your child’s temperament. Then assess how his or her temperament matches up with your own.
And if your temperaments don’t match up? LaRosa advises the most effective method is to adjust your parenting techniques to match the temperament of your child, keeping in mind the following tips:
“It is especially important with the easy-going child to help them name their emotional state and encourage their expression of feelings because they are less likely to voice their opinion, even if they have one,” she says.
In addition to dealing with temperaments, LaRosa offers some basic tips that are helpful to children — and parents — of all ages:
In the next Good to Go, LaRosa will offer tips on how to prevent family fall- out when falling back to Daylight Savings Time.
Editor’s Note: WTOP’s Katie Howard is a mom on the go. With two children under age 5, she’s always looking for ways to provide her family fast and healthy snacks, meals and activities. Katie shares her go-to food and family fitness tips on her blog “Good to Go.”